My First SAR Was Disappointing

Don't get me wrong, most of it was amazing. Unfortunately, a huge chunk of the time was allotted to conversing in the media we were exposed to. SAR stands for Sexual Attitudes Reassessment, but in my case, assessment because this is my first SAR! It's really less about the mind and more about emotions. Honestly, I am so analytical and it was a struggle. Here was my problem; we had breakout rooms (Zoom meeting format) and I was expecting a riveting discussion on the media we consumed, including 2 guest speakers per day. My biggest issue was, ok, you paid to be here (everyone has to pay for tuition and the SAR is already included), why aren't you as excited to be here as I am? I understand that this is a requirement, but your excuse cannot be, "I'm still trying to absorb the material and get to know the agenda." 

First of all, you must be in module 3 to participate in SAR. I'm currently in module 3 because I already know a lot of the variety of human sexuality models and studies. Additionally, I've tried a lot of things, I watched and was not phased by any of the imagery that I was exposed to during the conference. In fact, my biggest takeaway was exploring more of my kinky side. Yet, I am here to learn about the business aspect of sex coaching. 

Secondly, the name says it all. Sexual Attitudes Reassessment; we are assessing our sexual attitudes and question why we like what we like and don't like what we don't like. I understand that some people may have been nervous about hurting someone's feelings or attacking someone's beliefs, but the whole point of this conference is to respect judgements and boundaries. In my small group, someone didn't understand why another person would want to be slapped in the face. I love a good slap to the face, but that's me! I respect them, they respect me, and if they don't do well that's their own problem. 

Lastly, I'm upset that I didn't get to connect with everyone because I was with the same people for all 2 days. I would have loved to have mixed up the group and, even better, have an isolated retreat. A lot of the SAR conferences became virtual due to the pandemic which, personally, I benefited from because I have limited access to money. That's why I am doing all of these programs because I accidentally became a co-facilitator during the small groups. I even asked them if SARs are usually like this and they replied with a, "no, not usually." At the end, they privately messaged me a thank you for co-facilitating and I feel so much more confidence because of this experience. Hopefully, my next SAR will be more engaging in a decade from now.